Dating Over 30

Relationships Over 30 - First Impressions

Naturally, I believe in online relationships. You can meet people you should have met, but whose paths you would never have crossed. You can get information on perfect strangers which might take you weeks, maybe months, to accumulate, just by reading a profile and looking at Perfectmatch.com's Duet® Analysis Profile, a revolutionary 360º presentation of its members.

Still, as we all know, there are a few things learned face to face, which is why we all worry about what will happen at the first meeting. The coffee, drink, walk, etc., finally comes, usually after weeks of exchanging emails and phone calls. And then…it is often too quickly and abruptly over. I think that's a flaw in the way a lot of people use the system.

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Don't You Need a Playmate?

No, I'm not referring to the Playboy kind with a bunny tail. And, I don't mean a playmate like your best friend in third grade. I mean someone to DO things with, starting this summer! Someone with whom you can go to concerts, swim, travel and/or just talk over the day's event over a terrific glass of wine. This playmate is someone who can help start your collective memories and be a real joy in your life.

I think with all the earnest and serious talk about finding a soul mate, we sometimes forget one of the most important things we can do for ourselves - play, widely defined, of course. Play is the valuable time-off we have to explore life and its greatness. It's the adventure which quickens our heartbeat, the movie which makes us think what life is about or the exploration of a new store with quirky or fabulous things. While we may love our work - in some cases tolerate it - it's rarely lighthearted. Everything counts, and while you can have fun at work, it's rarely carefree.

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Dr. Pepper Schwartz Relationship Expert Perfectmatch.com

Ask Dr. Pepper Schwartz

Question on dating in my 30's
Dear Dr. Pepper, I am 32 and concerned why I can't make a relationship work. I'm totally giving, selfless, loving and I give all in a relationship. I attract men who are between 38-40, yet are not willing to commit. We start dating and they say I'm everything they've been looking for and how lucky they are. Yet after about 3 months or 6 months, they make up an excuse how they aren't relationship material and then, that's it. If I'm so great to them, how come they can't commit?

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Singles Over 30 Have Found Success

Michael & Anita
Married April 19, 2007
I'm so grateful, I want to thank Perfectmatch. Who would think a girl like me, all the way from Denmark (Europe) would move to America and meet the man of my dreams? I'm so thankful. If it wasn't for your website, Michael and I would never have met.

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